Many of us work in fields that require us to sell ourselves.
Work doesn't always present itself. Mere opportunities for work usually have no guarantees, and require you to pitch your services. Prove yourself.
You try to put your best foot forward and hope that you land the gig. Or do you?
After college, I had several job interviews before I was offered a job. It got to the point that I was desperate for a job, despite people's great advice of not taking the first job offer just because. I would have taken anything. Even a job I knew wouldn't be the best for me. I had student loans to start paying off and a professional life to start.
Without giving you my full work history, I'll just fast forward to my last job interview.
"What are three things you want/need from a manager?"
A great question, I thought but tried not to say… No fillers! After providing my answer, I panicked. "Oh no! I said I don't like micro-managing. What if that's her management style?! I'm not going to get the job!"
If that IS her management style, I don't WANT the job. I don't want to create some fake version of myself that is the perfect candidate for a job. If I do (and let's be honest, many of us have…), I get caught in my lie. It has to be perpetuated. It's like the time my friend accidentally said she loved portobello mushrooms because she was mistaken about the kind of mushroom it was. Her parents-in-law made several dishes over the years with her "favorite." A precedence was set, and she felt trapped. It became difficult and awkward to let them know over time. That's a bit of a silly, light-hearted example, but I just love that story.
You don't want the job, gig, significant other, whatever it might be that requires you to be a person you're not. Rejection is freedom. If you are entirely honest and you are rejected, you are freed from what likely would have been a forced, fake and frustrating situation. Instead of trying to figure out what people want and catering to that, why don't we be ourselves? It might mean less job offers, less dates, less photography gigs. But it also means that the ones you do have truly suit you. And I think that everything about them will be better as a result.
So who's with me?
Let the great…experiment…BEGIN!