How many people do you think really know you?
I mean, REALLY know you?
Through and through. The good, the bad, the ugly, the everything…
When I first stopped to think about this, I realized how few, if any, I would consider to be in this category. I'd say everything about me is known, but not by one person per se. I have no true secrets that I've never told ANYONE. But there are few people that know EVERYTHING. I divvy it up some, talking to certain people about certain aspects of life.
I think one of the biggest surprises for many people who do get to know me on a deeper level is that I'm actually quite melancholy. I'm wired to be. I love to have fun, and most get the best of that, of me. But those closest to me see how hard I'm hit by certain things. How much I truly feel, care and am impacted.
I have to check myself (ahem, or be checked by loved ones) pretty regularly when circumstances get less than ideal and I start to get affected. I once blogged about choosing happiness. This is more on that, I guess.
I make a concerted effort to stay positive. It's all about perspective.
Yes, sometimes life hits you. Hard. But even when it does, I venture to say there are blessings in your life and things to be grateful for. And people there for you. Never take your people for granted. Don't ever let negative circumstances change the way you treat the ones you love. They are on your side. As I've had to remind myself on occasion, "Same team!" (And if they aren't, well, I recommend some…culling.)
Growing up, my mom used to make my brothers and I say 10 compliments for every put down. It made us think twice about saying the negative things, even if it was to avoid the punishment of positivity. Whenever something starts getting me down, I try to stop and think about how many more things are amazing in my life. Because, 1) this is just one thing and 2) there's so much to be grateful for. I never want to lose sight of the good in my life.
DISCLAIMER: this does not apply to constructive criticism, particularly regarding photography. I say welcome the feedback that will make us even better. And view it the positive way. Like being grateful to have honest friends who want you to only get better. ;-)